The Irony of Success

Most people aren’t happy with success because they mis-define it from the start. Those who never achieve this ill-defined definition of success die in a blissful ignorance. Those unfortunate enough to reach high levels of success understand that the supposed fulfillment of dreams have begun the manifestations of a nightmare they never imagined.

It’s not that the goal was wrong, per se. Pride should and can be taken for a Herculean accomplishment. However, when motives are naive, ignorant or delusional, it is impossible to find infinite contentment in any success paradigm that only had finite expressions of happiness.

The question is: What is success? Is it winning a championship? Graduating with an advanced degree? A bank account that can’t be exhausted in three generations? The admiration and cheers of millions of people whom you never met? On the rationale side: Is it being a good citizen that fails to disturb the status quo? Settling for the quiet and simpler enjoyments of life? Is it following all the ethical and moral standards of organized religion?

These questions in itself are part of the problem. Success has no cookie cutter question or answer. All sentient beings have very specific missions and an idiosyncratic approach must be taken. It is easy to let others define what success is; and, for us to falsely act as though we are content when we obtained these short lived treasures.

It is each persons life mission to find their mission and to the best of their ability to satisfy that mission. Only then, will we learn that success is recorded in small chunks, every second of every minute. Only then, will we learn that the all elusive goal of success is truly an Uncatchable Phantom. Success is to be chased never obtained. What is the fun in reaching the end? Unparalleled joy comes in understanding we don’t know it all and will never know it all; but, still trying to know as much as possible. The key is finding the carrot that we never get tired of chasing…..

My loved ones, I know not what success is or means to you. But, I can tell you this, if you can hold it or touch it, it may bring you fleeting moments of bliss and happiness, but it is not authentic and true success. It is merely motivation to keep us moving on a larger unreachable mission. The irony of success is, we never reach it. But, in never reaching it, we stay in eternal ecstasy because the key to success is not in achieving it, it’s in doing it –and not even consciously knowing we are doing it– Doing what? That which moves the needle for us, without inflicting harm on the innocent.

Those things that come naturally to us are the hint from infinite intelligence that guides us to which journey we shall take. We learn, we fail, we grow. The more we fall, the more we learn and grow. The axiom is true, it was never about reaching the destination…. It was always about the Journey.

Set and reach tangible goals. It is good and necessary. Just understand that is merely momentary gratification to keep you motivated on your true mission. Let no one- not even this writer- define success for you. Just be careful you don’t define it improperly for yourself, my loved ones. Enjoy your journey!!

Blessings and Prayers

Budget Request

If the “budget” is balanced, your 2 cents are not needed.
Listen carefully to see if your additional comments are needed to help balance the conversation. Never waste your money, beloved. And understand your words can be worth millions…… or
cost you millions.

Blessings and Prayers


Some lessons are taught
Some lessons are bought
Some lessons are repeated
Some lessons get completed

Learn the first time
But some are unforgiven
And don’t allow for a second time

Shortcuts usually lead to a delayed journey
Listen to those who share their wisdom
And appreciate that session
It is indeed a blessing.


Play it safe, if you are content with mediocrity.


To create a plan and not follow it, is even more futile than never creating it. If you have the discipline to start it, have the courage, endurance and strength to take it to completion.

Too Late

The irony of too late is we don’t act upon it or realize it until the problem is TOO LATE.

The N word

One of the ugliest words. Let’s remove the N from the word of NEVER. Once we remove it, it should teach us it may take a while to obtain our goal, but it is never impossible. It is ever possible!


To keep something precious, never touch it. When you get comfortable and familiar with anything it loses the special luster of being “untouchable.”
The reaching is the thrill. The actual attainment of most items reveal the ordinariness of what was falsely given extraordinary qualities.

Pure items and relationships are assets that appreciate. If the value of the desired item or relationship depreciates in time, it was fool’s gold that could only bring momentary excitement.

Beloved, try not to waste valuable time on items that only have a value based on novelty. Ironically, TIME is the true gem. Spend it on things that make you feel good, make you better and helps you to better others, my loved ones.

Blessings and Prayers

Too Sunny

Ever been driving and the sun blinded you so much you needed to put on sunglasses or pull the visor down?

No one would argue the importance of the sun or the needed Vitamin D that come from the beautiful sun rays.

However, let me submit for your consideration the need for moderation. In a world of over consumption, we can have so much of a good thing that it blinds us to the immediate task ahead.

Too many blessings? How can that be bad? It’s not bad, but we all need to understand that there is a point where too much can become harmful. For example, food is necessary- but at a

buffet the very food that stops the hunger pangs, can create a different belly problem if we overindulge.

The sun is brilliant. It is too much for us to have in totality. The same is for everything in life. We need it. We want it, but we need the right amount because too much is just as dangerous as too little.

Count your blessings today. Appreciate what you have. Guard against conspicuous consumption and even more against invidious consumption. Blessings can easily turn into curses. I will close with the Chinese Proverb…. Be careful what you wish for, because you just might get it!

Bottom Line: Enjoy the sun, just don’t get burnt, my beloved.

Blessings and Prayers

My Milwaukee, My America

My heart hurts for the city of Milwaukee, the United States and the world in general. We have succumb to our lower selves. Violence begats violence. I agree with civil disobedience and civil anarchy; but, whenever our actions are not grounded in love, disaster is soon to follow. I paused to collect my thoughts before writing to marinate, specifically, on the Hamilton case. In the end, no firing of a cop, no indictment, no conviction of a cop, no multi-dollar settlement will ever return this life. It is a permanent loss! Sadly, the lack of transparency and lack of a more expeditious ruling adds to the fire of the pain of the city. No law biding citizen will argue the need and necessity of police officers. We are thankful for those that serve and protect. However, any society that allow the rule protectors to become rule breakers will eventually self destruct. Ironically, this is why 2nd Amendment rights were created. To allow people to form militias and protect against a downward spiraling government attempting to seize too much power over the citizenry. Killing cops sends a message, true. But, it is the wrong message and only proves to intensify the conflict. I certainly do not approve of those who have sworn to serve and protect to create hostile situations and then hide behind a wall of blue protection to save them from the very rules they swore to uphold. Police officers should de-escalate situations as much as possible. When not able, I understand, too, that their actions may, at times, cause for swift and immediate action. I do not want a police officer to second guess, but I want their first thoughts to be sober and just. In the Hamilton case specifically, it appears two police officers had just met with him. And, since he was still breathing at their departure, one can only assume he was doing nothing worthy of back-up or death. It appears another officer came on the scene and appeared a bit over zealous to do his job. I like the fact he wanted to do his job. However, in retrospect if he could go back and do things differently, would he? If his answer is yes, then his answer displays his guilt. If his answer is no, then he should have been relieved of his position because his own Chief stated he did not follow proper police procedures. He created the hostile environment and eventually used deadly force.

Hear me well beloved, if we believe the officer and this precious soul is the real issue, then indeed we are truly lost. We fight the wrong enemy. The real enemy is an institution that teaches us to hate our earthly brothers and sisters. The real enemy is our collective poisoned minds that allow for more hate than love. Whether we like it or not, we are a collective society and these fraudulent demographics that we allow to cause hate and separation will be our collective demise. As I get older, I appreciate the words of MLK more and more. We will all perish as fools if we do not begin to use the weapon of love. We have a sick community and world. We are all sick- myself included. I know why King loved Gandhi, his words are true too. We must become the change we want to see in the world. There is no such things as half way crooks– and there is no such thing as a half way leader or half way good person. Until we calm the enemy within, that inner me will always explode against the world. Chaos knows no color, age, religion, or political affiliation. Chaos ultimate end is destruction. How do we solve the problem? We begin within, first. Then those collective minds must begin to galvanize the surrounding community and help treat all with respect and give more than a “Jim Crow” equality for every citizen. We must understand the founding founders laid out a blue print for us to improve on, not follow by script almost 240 years later. If we follow the true creed of the Declaration of Independence, America could be an Elysium environment where we are rich in compassion, love, health and wealth. We don’t have to pick between these, we can have it all.

In reality, we will huddle back to our corners on distrust and hate, continuing creating problems and blaming others until we are extinguished as a people. My heart hurts because we should know better and do better. Have our hearts become so seared, our minds so corrupted that we can’t see we need each other to survive? There are only two choices: life and death. Out actions as a whole show we choose death. These latest shootings and verbal race wars are only a microcosm of the true problem. Out current tactics have us all running on a hamster wheel in a Groundhog Day like scenario. It’s time to get off the wheel and wake up and begin a new day. If not, the nightmarish scenario we currently live in will not only remain, but get worse. We have to do better. We can do better. In the end, I can only control the ‘me’ in our ‘we’ battle plan. Your actions don’t have to make everyone comfortable, because change is uncomfortable; but, your actions- if righteous- should bring healing and not hurt. They should be a balm and not a poison. It should open arms and eyes to see the real issue and marinate on real time solutions. We should not have to demand justice, if all are entitled to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. The question is how do we set this up so all can truly take advantage of the opportunities and possibilities America is suppose to provide for us and our posterity. We have to start early and end late with our love and interventions. Caring and compassion from the womb to the tomb would create the America that was envisioned and truly make it that perfect union. Maybe this is too much to ask from imperfection? Well, it is my quest to reach this perfection or die trying! Written in love, The BLAQUESMITH


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